This past weekend was a rough one in the Martinez household. Our perfectly healthy 6 month old came down with his first (and I know won’t be last) sickness. Recognize your limitations.
To say my mama heart wasn’t prepared for it is the understatement of the year. Those of you who know me on a personal level know I’ve dealt with anxiety for many years. Although in the past few, it’s been a relatively low issue.
Then baby Grayson joined our life. Anxiety to the max is what happened over here. I’m certain I had postpartum anxiety and I truly believe that postpartum mamas need more support. That’s a whole other conversation for another time though.
As I sat on the couch with my 6 month old snuggled up on my chest, the only place he could fall asleep comfortably, I realized how many expectations I had for myself that weekend (and every day for that matter). I had a lot on my mind that I wanted to get accomplished.
As the hours passed moving from couch, to the bathroom (where we created our own sauna), back to the couch. I could feel the productivity slipping between my fingers. The anxiety rising up in my chest as I feared for Grayson as well as I feared about the things I needed to get done.
Can you relate? I mean, I literally had a list of probably HOURS worth of things I wanted to get done. It’s funny the way God speaks to us sometimes. He tends to have to teach me things the hard way. Grayson being sick was terrible but the quiet moments we spent cuddling helped me realize how much I needed to recognize my limitations. And not the kind of limitations that hold you back from following dreams or anything that puts a wall between you and reaching goals.
The kind of limitations I am speaking of are the ones that you put in place that say you can do this much and after that you need to give yourself GRACE. I am one person. I can’t do everything. It’s a lesson I have to write on my heart, in my mind, and probably on sticky notes so I can have a daily reminder all over for me to see.
When I realized this was a lesson the Lord was teaching me in this time I got to thinking deeper about all the times I’ve been terrible at setting limitations. I’ve always known I’ve been a people pleaser. I’m always the person to go above and beyond with everything I do. So much so that it’s even at the expense of my own sanity sometimes. Usually it’s not others that put the pressure on me, it is me putting the pressure on ME.
I needed this lesson and I needed it right now. I needed to hear that it is okay to say no. It is okay and in fact necessary to recognize your limitations and set boundaries. To recognize what the Lord has for me in each day and to not worry about the rest.
“There is a time for everything, and a season for every activity under heaven. - Ecclesiastes 3:1 Click To Tweet
If I continue to spiral down the path of zero limitations on my time I think I would quite possibly explode. It wouldn’t be pretty for anyone. In fact, it would probably be horrific for all parties involved.
I’m so glad God’s grace is enough for me. He did not let me spiral so far out of limitation-less living that I ended up hurting others around me. He gave me this past weekend as a moment to realize what changes need to be made and to enjoy and soak up the quietness. The time, with Him, and the time with my sweet little family.
Limits are the key to finding balance in your life and keeping your sanity
If you are like me and struggle with boundaries and limits on your time. I encourage you to know that it is okay. Take the pressure off and don’t be so hard on yourself. Give yourself grace and know that His grace is more than enough.