Parenting is hard. That could be labeled as the understatement of the year. The amount of pressure you feel to be the best parent you can be is unreal. It starts from the moment you find out you’re having a child. The unwanted advice rolls in and it can all be so contradictory. Grace in parenting is essential!
You start to read up on becoming a parent and maybe you ask a few friends some advice. You’ll surely start seeing more ads or related content to parenthood as your internet searches become more about becoming a parent. This can lead to a lot of confusion and self doubt as a parent. Especially a new parent.
The conversation about what kind of parent you want to be usually happens prior to the child entering the world but it can become very skewed because of all the different advice you may read. It can have you feeling inadequate and possibly even insecure.
It is essential to give yourself grace in parenting. There is no ONE way to parent. There are many different parenting styles and as long as you are striving to do the best you can for your child then you are doing it right. In a day that is so connected to the media it can be hard to not compare yourself as a parent to what you see portrayed across the internet. Which is why I believe following these few rules when it comes to making decisions about parenting you can find more grace and less judgement.
Be True to Yourself
In the midst of parenting in an over judgemental society, you must stay true to yourself. It is imperative that you recognize and internalize that YOU know what is best for your child. You are the one who knows your child the best and love them more than anybody in the world. Ultimately, YOU are what is best for them. If your constantly trying to be somebody else because you compare yourself as a parent to others then you are not being true to yourself. Which is easier said than done sometimes but you have to give yourself grace. You deserve to.
Find your Parent Tribe
When you have come to the end of yourself and you need to ask advice. It’s so important that you have a small tribe of like-minded trustworthy parent friends to turn to. These people will be your saving grace. You will be able to trust their advice and you won’t question yourself as much as you make decisions. Find these people, you’ll need them!
Reflect to Grow
Reflecting on what works, and what does not work for your parenting style is key to growing as a parent. Learn from your mistakes. Mark what works and what does not work. When you find something that works for you don’t be afraid to do just that. If there is something that doesn’t work for you then don’t force it! Reflecting daily can help you adjust your reactions, help you define what to be intentional about, and plan for moving forward.